Can you live just by loving?

24 September 2007

They say love makes the world go round. Or is it money? Love… money – who the hell knows these days. I used to believe that I would rather be stone-broke and deeply in love than wealthy without love in my life. But in our modern society is this appropriate? Can we honestly be in a love-filled relationship and survive without money? These days I’m beginning to think that this is not a possibility. For where there is no money, there is stress. Where there is stress, there is confrontation. Confrontation is the source of anger, not love. Can love pay the bills? Can it pay for your child’s education? Basically, can love keep you off the streets?

I’ll tell you one thing though – money can never ever buy a mental and spiritual connection between two people in love or between a family. As the saying goes – ‘You cannot live without having loved’ – but can you survive without clothes on your back, no house to sleep in and no food on the table? These are the things that money buys. So, if you can not survive from the get go without money – how can you survive in order to experience love. It’s like what comes first – the egg or the chicken? Money or love? Through love your parents conceived you. Although on the other hand, you could have been conceived by a prostitute (whom someone paid) on one night where the condom accidentally broke or you were conceived through artificial insemination which costs money.

Anyway, I’m getting off track here. What I’m trying to get at is whether a relationship or a family can maintain itself on love alone. Does money play a part? Is it both money and love that is needed in equal proportions? In my heart – I do know that love is the greatest thing one could have. Like I said, money can’t buy you that. But in the 20th century you need a house, a good education and some valuables – which in, your love can prosper.( I’m not saying that that is the only means for love flourishing!)

Money will buy you the bed in which you make love. Money will buy you the pen with which you write a love note to your partner. Money will buy you the bunch of flowers to express your love to your special partner. Money will buy you the dinner where you share a romantic feast surrounded by candlelight. Money will pay for your wedding where you devote your life to your soul mate. It will also pay for your honeymoon at a holiday resort where you both share nights of passion. Money will pay for the hospital where you have your first child – a ‘product’ of your love. What can love buy?

Love can keep you warm on a cold night. It can give a home-less person the strength to carry on. Love can make you feel special. In fact, love can make you feel many things. Most of all love can make you happy.

So the question remains – can you live just by loving? I still don’t know the answer…